Judging and being judged - a reply.

Yesterday, I came across a post by the title "Judging and being judged", the link of which I have posted below for reference.

http://wayofaseeker.wordpress.com/2013/12/19/judging-and-being-judged/

The post was beautifully written, even if I refused to agree with every single word of it. I thought of replying on the post but then what better way to reply to a blogpost, than by another blog post? So here it goes.

According to the writer, we all judge, it is something that comes naturally to all of us. Therefore, since it comes so naturally, we should be careful and expose our noble side instead of our immature and stupid side, especially on social and public forums like Twitter where people don't know us by anything other than our tweets or what we post. 

But I disagree. Maybe judging might come naturally to all of us, because if we are expressing our opinion about a person, any person, whether it's good or bad, it is judging. However, we could all learn to keep our opinions to ourselves where we believe that the opinion is too critical or too negative. For example, some person, let's name him A, decides to post something funny but offensive. You'd automatically assume he likes offensive jokes, and likes to mock people around him. Now what if, what if that person decides to judge you right back? What if he decides you're not as noble as you believe yourself to be? What then? Wouldn't you feel bad for judging him in the first place, because he just retaliated to your snide comment? This is what judging does. 

Furthermore, how can we judge someone, how did we even get the right to critically analyze someone, when our own self is full of flaws? We all know that us, being humans, makes us imperfect. That we are flawed. There was only one man perfect in the history of time and he was the Holy Prophet (SAW). Then, how can we point fingers at someone when we are sinning in some different way? I read a saying somewhere which applies beautifully here - "Don't judge someone because they sin differently than you."

The next point was that we should show our nobler, mature side instead of showing our stupid and immature side. Now that's laughable for two reasons - firstly, maybe a person doesn't have a noble side, what then? And secondly, why bother being all high and mighty for people on a social forum, people you barely know, people who for all you know might as well be fake accounts? How many of your followings have you met in real life? See, that answers in my question.

And the most important argument of all - why pretend? Why pretend to be someone you're not? Why pretend to post serious tweets when you actually want to post funny ones and vice versa? Wouldn't that be hypocrisy in it's purest form? To tweet or show people what we're just pretending to be, in order to be popular, or considered more religious, or considered more dignified? I don't think pretense is the key to success. I see so many people on Twitter everyday, who just post things so that people will "like" them for what they tweet, not for who they are. I have even talked to a lot of people from Twitter and realised that they are not at all what they show themselves to be on Twitter. They just tweet stuff, serious stuff, in order to get some sort of approval from the Twitter oldies. And since they're all hiding behind a screen, it doesn't matter, right? But it does. A person who can be hypocritical in such a thing, can be a hypocrite in real life, which never ends well, neither for them or for their loved ones. 

My point remains. Don't judge because ultimately you wouldn't want to be judged yourself. And don't change yourself for some random people behind a screen, for all you know, they might not be the people you thought them to be, they might just be pretending to be something they're not, themselves. Be yourself. You couldn't do any better than that. Trying to copy someone else, or to try to be someone you're not is the worst thing you could do to yourself, trust me, I know. I learnt it the hard way.